Long Distance Relationship Advice
What Defines a LDR?
According to the Urban dictionary:
“A strong emotional commitment to another who is far away and often beyond physical access most of the time.
This is something that requires a great deal of maturity and emotion. It is only ever effective in the case of lofty strong loving relationships. In many many cases people can be far too simple minded or immature to benefit from a long distance relationship. If someone is more interested in intimate physical contact with others than they are in emotional bonding than they should not and will not function in a long distance relationship. But if both partners are very serious about each other for reasons beyond physical it can be very worth it because in that situation, one may find it impossible to be satisfied with a replacement relationship.”
The Oxford dictionary describes long distance relationships as: “A romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis”.
Long distance relationships are the separation of a couple in a romantic relationship by geography. You’ll find that most long distance relationships involve younger couples who are usually college students but there is an increasing amount of married couples who live in long distance relationships.
Long distance relationships are when partners cannot see or visit each other face-to-face. There are four main challenges in long distance relationships:
1. Difficulty judging the state of a relationship from a distance
2. Increased financial burdens to maintain a relationship
3. Difficulty maintaining your close friendships while in a long distance relationships
4. High expectations for the limited quality face-to-face time while in a long distance relationship
Even though long distance relationships are usually of the romantic kind not all of them are romantic. The moment a person moves away from their friends or family those relationships also become long distance.
In the past long distance relationships were usually couples who had started dating when they lived closer together. They then later moved to different locations due to unforeseen circumstances such as a career opportunity. Now-a-days though, due to the internet, many long distance relationships actually start online.
Because you are apart and are unable to be together, many dates are made up of online chats, phone calls, texts and emails. These long distance relationships can be amazing, rewarding and a lot of fun. They can also be challenging due to the distance and not being able to see each other as often as couples may be able to in a more traditional relationship.
The most important thing to remember in a long distance relationship is to communicate as much as possible. Communication is the key to making a long distance survive and even thrive. Thanks to the internet, this is so much easier to do than it was a few years back.
There are many ways to communicate in a long distance relationship. You can communicate via email, with long letters, or even just quick little messages. You can Skype, which is a great way to be able to talk face-to-face. Another great way to see each other and talk is by using Facetime on your phone. And then, you get the good old fashioned mail system. You can post letters back and forth which is a very romantic way of communicating but it is also a lot slower way of communicating. The quickest and most efficient way of communicating is through text messages. Sending text messages is pretty much an instant way of getting hold of each other.
Not everyone can make a long distance relationship work. Not everyone can survive in a long distance relationship. It is said to be easier to keep a long distance relationship going and to make a success out of it If you grew up having part of your family absent for long periods of time.
If you are in a long distance relationship it is important to be completely committed to each other. Being honest and trusting each other is the key to helping your relationship last. Long distance relationships are more work than traditional relationships but they can be very rewarding. You have to commit to constantly putting effort into the relationship. If you do this there will be great memories that will always remind you of the good times spent together.
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